The GIFT & DRUG his love 2 you Let's face it we have all been there, ladies you know the road I am talking about. The road of "attachments". We get attached to a guy and we say "I Love U" or some just get attached to a guy and "expect" of them. And I'l tell you why......... When you meet a man, now it a common issue for some ladies to be at a point in their #life where they are insecure, they feel so low and down, probably there hearts just been smashed from the last guy and there now weak and vulnerable walking around with their hearts out on their sleeve. When your at a weal point in your #life, a vulnerable point, we tend to be guided by Love, we sometimes look for a mans love, because a man can pick u up and love u in several different ways...ooooh we know when a man shows us love and affection we feel sexy, we feel attractive, we gain confidence, we gain charisma..... yes this all sounds so great....but as i continue we gain A GIFT. A GIFT, many will be thinking the idea, my idea of a GIFT is one that is a present exchanged on a special occasion or bought for someone special, hmmmm, this GIFT we gain is slightly different. This gift is something provided to you from a man to you, its a gift of confidence, attraction, sexiness, feeling good, its a gift of things we once had before we were vulnerable. This gift differs to the usual gifts because it is intabgible, it is unable to be touched or grasped and does not have a physical presence, its a spiritual gift, a man giving you confidence or anything alse that cant be felt or have phsyical presence is an spiritual gift. A man gives you one of these, but what happens when or if he takes it away again, if you both split up or he loses interest, what happens then? huh ? Are you going to go back to being vulnerable, having no confidence feeling insecure ? feeling how you felt before you met him? YES. many women, girls,ladies, females all tend to have this problem, a man picks u up makes you feel so dam good so dam secure so dam confident and sexy then he drops you back down and you loose everything. BECAUSE you allowed this man to provide you with such a GIFT, WOMEN i speak and say over and over again, (read my love yourself blog). It is essential to love yourself before you walk into any relationship before you even allow someone to love you, you love yourself. THE DIFFERENCE is between a insecure women that meets a guy who shows her love and a secure women that meets a guy that shows her love is a thin line. The secure women walks in (relationship/relation/link whatever), confident, strong, independent and sexy, and when the man leaves she can walk back out confident, strong, independent and sexy as she gave that gift to herself, and you cant take back your own gift you gave to yourself...therefore it remains. Now the insecure women walks in not confident, insecure, not feeling sexy or attractive, the man then provides the GIFT of that to her, the GIFT the secure women already has, the insecure women gets attached as she feels she needs him she needs him to love herself she needs him to be confident she starts to feel needy of the mans love so he can make her feel this extravagant way and that's also where ladies...the ATTACHMENT comes in. She feels attached as she feels needy, she allowed this mans love to make her feel secure and confident within herself so she feels she forever needs him, she starts chasing him down, running down his line (i been there, done that, left the t-shirt)lllooool. She starts to act irractic going crazy doing crazy things to get his attention as she feels she neeeds it, for this man had given her A DRUG of confidence, the women;s in need to feel loved and when she doesnt or no longer gets it she becomes weak again. Weak so weak she back on the road to vulnerability again back on the road even worse than she started out before she received this gift. she looking for LOVE A MANS LOVE for she wants the DRUG the GIFT of confidence again, as feeling confident is feeling sexy. AND that is why I beg and ask you ladies out their, my ladies to please LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU ALLOW SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU, SO WHEN THEY LEAVE YOUR LOVE WITHIN YOURSELF STILL REMAINS.

WHEN LOVERS ROCK -do Not Try To Change What's Not Urz OK some or maybe most will argue that when they have a boyfriend or man as they like to call it, that he is yours. Come on don’t deny it I hear it all the time ‘he’s my man!’ What’s wrong with referring to your partner as mine/yours? The answer is absolutely nothing only he is not yours. He belongs to his parents, the Lord himself for those of a religious background. So why do we get caught up in saying this phrase, most the time it is because we are trying to put forward a point, that he is not up for grabs or looks by anyone else which is totally fine. But is he yours to change, Do you have a right to try and change him, is it any of your business to try and change him? Well yeah daar? THE CHANGE A person’s persona can be modified not changed, even if one wanted to change it for you how far could they go and how long it would take.... the answer my friends is forever. You have to learn to be happy with your partner learn to accept what you fell in love with and if you fell in love with his characteristics, what’s the rush to change them now later on in the relationship. The reason being why many will try to change their partner later on in their relationship is that after a while you start to feel a sense of comfort ability with each other, you start to feel like you have prize ownership over that person and they start to be more of a possession to you rather than someone you have the privilege of knowing and loving. I speak of this lightly, as sometimes change can occur for the better, but you can only make someone become what they want to become, or if they change for you without a doubt one day they will change back or they will be secretly unsatisfied within themselves forgetting who they are and becoming confused with who they wanna be.

When Lovers Rock And How To Add Stability LOVE THY SELF If you can wake up in the morning and look into the mirror, and the first thing you do is smile then you my friend are on the start of a road to loving yourself or maybe your halfway there already. It is a crucial and essential element to starting or being involved in any relationship is to love yourself, as” if you cannot love yourself how the hell do you expect anyone else to be able to...huh? How the hell can you expect someone to love you when you have not put anything on show to love!!!”. Every human being has been placed and blessed with at least three positive and attractive components within them whether it is a smart brain to a positive mind and way of thinking to a sexy curvaceous body or a hot hair do. There is something very attractive within each individual. I used to think of myself as an unattractive girl, growing up and to this day some people mainly family members will say I’m quite dorky, very attractive but very shy and unconfident. I didn’t love myself. Most times it could be agreed that I hated myself. I was young aged 19 to 20 and I saw nothing to really love about myself. I had a partner who loved me for my mind and personality and thought I was to die for with my looks, but he did notice that I wasn’t as confident as I should have been. It became quite hard for him to gain full access to the potential sexiness within me but he knew it was there so it gave him the urge to encourage me to love myself he would compliment me every so forth and kiss me and hug me be real clingy with him as he I his eyes thought I was has hot as Halle Berry. The question is if this young man saw such beauty in me then why couldn’t I see it? Simple, I needed a clean out a wash up and a fix up, now I am not talking about beauty wise I’m talking about cleaning out any form of hurt inside of your system, any form of Negative abuse, feeling an outcast and any sense of not belonging and fill it up with positivity, thinking I do belong rather than do I belong or don’t I belong. A lot of the times I have found that it’s what haunts you are what forms you. In such situations, I recommend sitting alone for an evening with one's memories, a pen and a blank sheet of paper in front of a candle, a big ashtray and matches. Write down on the paper all that haunts you, read it only once, and burn it with a pure heart. Picture in your imagination that, by burying the ashes of the reminiscences oppressing your soul, you are reborn, cleansed from all causes that led you to your current #life situation. Try it, and you will feel an inner relief. Your visualized victory over yourself will soon be fruitful in the victory over your ailment. The next time you wake up look in the mirror and repeat my #life words of wisdom. AFFIRMATIONS I Am Cool Calm Collected And Totally in Control and/or I Am Beautiful Strong Confident Independent and Very Attractive Repeat them in the morning, at least three times, before leaving for work in the front of your favourite mirror, at your workplace, or at times when you need them