So following on from my bout of tonsillitis, I couldn't talk for a few days - not a bad thing according to my brother, he suggests with tongue in cheek i try this in my next relationship - as a guy who grew up in a house hold full of women he knows how we work and his lady is fabulous and also very lucky. She I am sure has him worked out perfectly but one thing I'm sure of he will give her everything she needs -one lucky lady in my eyes... So i quite simply go through phases where men are concerned. At the moment the phase I am in is the I really can't be arsed with the whole dating thing. There's the getting dressed up, there's the shaving of legs, the style of haircut you sport just in case of the one night stand. Side note: Even the most intelligent girls fall foul of this, i am one of them! ladies we all have needs but be wary a night of passion can if your not using them can soon turn into a whole world of guilt, pain, anguish and if your not just looking for a bit of five minute fun keep em closed... Good boys don't push and that's a fact. Young ladies you want a guy who gives the warmest of kisses whilst saying goodnight,then you take his number and you call him/text him if he replies "get in" I can and will describe the horrors and joys of my experiences but let me share a bit about where I'm coming from.... So.... Here goes my main aim of writing was to really share my dating experiences! When I was looking around for guidance and advise it really was aimed at younger people in their 20's, mothers in their 30's or much older people who had lost partners either to a younger model or sadly the true loves of their lives had passed away. There wasn't much for a lady in her mid 30's with only one lover in her #life and no children - it was a lonely isolated place - I haven't met my prince charming yet, but I have learned to love the friends I have in my #life, their lives change all the time - sometimes it makes me jealous, other times it makes me feel quite smug that I'm not worrying about coffee cups! So I've not sent you to sleep already here's the beginning of my story, who knows how it will end.... It all started in 1997 when i was fresh faced, young and a hopeless romantic girl! I believed in love at first sight and that true love conquers all.... I had learnt this mostly in the form of fair tales and romantic literature. (still believe in a bit) It was then I met the boy - my one my only, seriously thought he was the one that everyone had just one person! and I guess a bit of my very backward brain still thinks that one day the one who is meant to be with me will arrive outside of my door on a horse to rescue me from the clutches of crazy cat lady status! So here i am 19 in love and convinced that i would spend the rest of my #life with the person it took 12 years for us to reliable we making each other miserable and so my story begins...