WHEN LOVERS ROCK -do Not Try To Change What's Not Urz OK some or maybe most will argue that when they have a boyfriend or man as they like to call it, that he is yours. Come on don’t deny it I hear it all the time ‘he’s my man!’ What’s wrong with referring to your partner as mine/yours? The answer is absolutely nothing only he is not yours. He belongs to his parents, the Lord himself for those of a religious background. So why do we get caught up in saying this phrase, most the time it is because we are trying to put forward a point, that he is not up for grabs or looks by anyone else which is totally fine. But is he yours to change, Do you have a right to try and change him, is it any of your business to try and change him? Well yeah daar? THE CHANGE A person’s persona can be modified not changed, even if one wanted to change it for you how far could they go and how long it would take.... the answer my friends is forever. You have to learn to be happy with your partner learn to accept what you fell in love with and if you fell in love with his characteristics, what’s the rush to change them now later on in the relationship. The reason being why many will try to change their partner later on in their relationship is that after a while you start to feel a sense of comfort ability with each other, you start to feel like you have prize ownership over that person and they start to be more of a possession to you rather than someone you have the privilege of knowing and loving. I speak of this lightly, as sometimes change can occur for the better, but you can only make someone become what they want to become, or if they change for you without a doubt one day they will change back or they will be secretly unsatisfied within themselves forgetting who they are and becoming confused with who they wanna be.