What I Want In You What I want in you is a generous heart. I want a heart that gives and gives but isn't afraid to receive. I don't mean just giving to me, but to those who need it too. I'd pass by the uncles and aunties on the street selling tissue for $1, and, without fail, I'd get 3 packets every time. Sometimes, I'd sit and have a chat with them before going off to my destination. I don't want you to be impressed, because there's nothing to be impressed about. I want us to be able to do more than just buy packets of tissue paper. What I want in you is the joy in giving - whether that is material or emotional. What I want in you is a secure heart. I want you to be sure of yourself, of me, of us. There will come days of insecurity, but I want you to always be able to fall back on the plans you have made, or the plans we have made, or, failing that, the plans God has made. I don't want you to ever feel like you're alone. You have your family, your friends, you have God, and now you have me added into the mix. You are never alone because you have all these people who loves you surrounding you, and they – no, we – will be your source of strength. What I want in you is a shoulder to lean on. When I'm tired, or when I feel like I have nowhere else to go, I want you to be my harbour. When you're tired, or you feel like you have nowhere else to go, I'll be your shoulder to lie on too. What I want in you is a sense of wonder and adventure. Never declare Singapore a boring place, because there are nooks and crannies of this place we haven't seen yet. I want you to find those places with me. I want you to take my hand, and walk in step with me, as we explore what's hidden to the rest of the world. What I want in you are conversations and communication. I want to laugh with you, cry with you; I want to talk about the philosophy of #life with you. I want us to be able to talk about anything and everything. Take all the space you need when you're mad (I know I will do that too), and come back and talk it out with me – calmly, without shouting, being passive-aggressive, or making jabs at me or at us. Please be mad only about the big things. I cannot coax you for too long – it's exhaustive for me. Don't jump to conclusions, or talk until I can't get a word in edgewise. I want a two way conversation, and that requires you to listen. I promise to listen to you too. What I want in you is responsibility and respect. See what you're working on to the end, and never flake on others for me. We have other times to hang out too. Pace yourself – don't work yourself to the bones. Take care of your body. Take care of others too. I like to be taken care of. Be on time, because I will turn up early. If you can beat me to a place, then I will know you're the one I've been waiting for. What I want in you is conscientiousness and sensitivity. It takes a while for me to open up to someone these days, so be patient. Don't expect me to tell you everything from the get go. Take it slow. Kiss me only when you're sure you want me to be yours. Notice when I'm cold, offer me your jacket. Know that my palms are sometimes sweaty, but take my hand anyway. It's the little things like these that win my heart over. Now that you know what I want in you, it's your turn: Tell me, what do you want in me?