Irresponsible Asking someone to buy something they can't afford (and knowing that they can't afford it). Asking someone to kiss them when they're sick (and knowing that what they've got is contagious). Asking someone to sacrifice their time (when their time is what pays the bills). Asking someone to manage something even though they have no experience in such matters (and expecting them to be good at it). Asking someone to do stuff (and knowing they hate to do that stuff). ---------- Do nice things because you want to. Not because others expect you to and you don't want to disappoint them. It's irresponsible of you to jeopardize your position and well-being just because you want to be seen as the good guy. If they demand any of the above, they don't and won't see you as the good guy. They won't understand when you politely refuse and give an otherwise reasonable explanation (no matter how many times they try to convince you of the contrary, after the fact - see the evidence and trail the precedence). They see you as a rug to wipe their shoes on. Stand up. Walk out. Enjoy the sunshine.