True Love Can Only Be One-Sided Many great minds have written on the subject of true love but not one share my viewpoint. I refute the accepted notion that true love has to be symbiotic, but before you make any decisions, as to me being irrational, read my arguments and then make up your mind. My definition of true love is unconditional, unselfish love, and as most of the great minds I have referred to earlier define it in a similar way, I don’t have to give proof of this definition. As for proving my hypothesis, I’ll try to do it as logically as I can. (Logic? True love?? Didn’t I always say love and logic couldn’t coexist??) Let us say my assumption is wrong and that somewhere there exists a relationship where a man and a woman are truly in love with one other. This means that they love each other unconditionally and unselfishly. This would mean that their love for each other would not depend on any external factors (unconditional) and that it would not depend on it being reciprocated (unselfish). No relationship can exist without reciprocation or unbiased by external factors. So, if this couple were in any kind of relationship, then their love for each other could neither be unconditional nor could it be unselfish. Thus by definition it couldn’t be true love. On the other hand, let us suppose that somewhere there is a man or woman who is truly in love with a woman or man who doesn’t wish to reciprocate this love. If this man or woman accepted this fact but still continued to love the woman or man passively and did not actively pursue the woman or man or try to make the woman or man reciprocate their love then this love would neither be conditional nor selfish. Thus by definition it would be true love. Thus if true love exists it can only be one sided. You may not be convinced by my arguments, but if you can see my logic then you would also see that it can be extended to prove that it is quite possible for one person to be truly in love with two or more persons, but that is a different hypothesis and I may get round to writing about it sometime in the future. © Otty 1999