Love Love isn't about control, it's about freedom. Some people like to exert their control using physical force. Not that I'm saying that it's okay, but it's easier to notice and run the hell away. It's the OTHER kind of control that's scary - the emotional control. It's not as clear cut and as obvious. As women, we often chalk it down to our partners 'loving' us, or making us 'better' people, or because they 'care'. For some people it gets to the point where they completely lose themselves and their identity. I'm pretty glad I'm not in that situation anymore. I really am.